Year Twenty Nine

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Act Like A Lady

Marcia Piper
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

Steve Harvey, known for his LOUD suits and hilarious nature penned "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man", subsequently made into a movie awhile back with a great cast if I do say so myself. Hilarious, down to earth, and engaging, the movie made me run out months later and borrow a copy from my local library - which is my JAM, and super budget friendly. Why buy a book when you could buy wine shoes?  Genius I know - you're welcome :)  Anyhow, the book - detailing relationships is by all accounts an easy read, outlined by major points about love and men, giving the reader a deeper understanding of how men think, what makes them tick,  and why they cheat.

Returning to the dating world last year was daunting - I'd forgotten how to, and more importantly was intimated by the sheer thought. Dating is not picnic - and being out of that world for so long had me imagining visions of myself in a convent with a vodka bottle. 

My takeaways from this book were that it applies to EVERYONE - regardless if you are in a relationship, looking for one, reeling form heartbreak and searching for answers to make peace. 

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Highlights:


  • Men are defined by three things (their mindset):


    1. Who he is
    2. What he does
    3. How much money he makes


  • How to know when he loves you:


    1. He professes his love
    2. He provides for you (emotional, etc)
    3. He protects you
  • Three things men need:
    1. Support and Encouragement
    2. Love
    3. "Cookie" 
  • "We need to talk" petrifies men (because they assume they did something wrong) and sends them into fix it mode (which is part of "provide").
  • "A man ALWAYS wants something". Period.
  • "Boys shack, men build homes" - are you a sport fish or a keeper?
  • The 90 day rule
  • Five questions to ask yourself (then him):
    1. What are your short term goals?
    2. What are your short term goals?
    3. Views on relationships - family, children, parents, God
    4. What you think of me?
    5. How do feel about me?

Although it wasn't a "page turner", it held my attention, gave me poignant, real life situations to ponder, and forcing me to do a spot check on just what I'm willing to do in/for a relationship, my morals, deal breakers, and requirements.



Read any good books lately? Ever read a relationship book?